Teens - Parenting Resources
Separation and Divorce
Separation and divorce can be a time of confusion, sorrow and pain for all members of the family. If you are separating or going through a divorce, it's a great idea to talk to your child and let him know that the marriage separation is not his fault and that both parents love him very much. It's also a good idea to tell your child that the divorce is permanent.
Try to retain as many routines as possible. Make sure your child knows he can ask you questions about the future and try to calm any fears he may have about the separation. Try to focus on the positives when talking to your child, and try to speak kindly of your spouse in front of your child. You could reassure him that he will get to spend time with both of you and maybe he will have two bedrooms! Most of all, make sure he knows how much he is cared for by both parents.
When you are ready, it may be a good idea to tell your child's teacher and childcare provider about the separation or divorce. Professionals in your child's life may notice changes in your child's behaviours or moods and having knowledge of the marriage separation may help them support your child. It may also be important to discuss custody arrangements to avoid confusion or communication breakdown between the home and school or child care centre.
- Because Life Goes On; Helping Children and Youth Live with Separation and Divorce
- Caught in the Middle: A Support Service for Children (ages 8-12)
- Family Conciliation Services – Works closely with the family law system. Family Conciliation Services offers conflict resolution services at no cost to families going through separation and divorce. It also provides the following informational and educational programs free of charge.
- Family Justice Resource Centre – The Family Justice Resource Centre is a new service provided by Manitoba Justice. Staff can direct you to the services you and your family may need to deal with matters such as child support, custody and access.
- Family Law Booklet – Divorce, child access/custody, child support payments and child protection all fall under family law provisions.
- For the Sake of the Children: An Information/Education Program for Parents and Families – Family Conciliation services offers the For the Sake of the Children program which will benefit all adults going through a separation or a divorce where children are involved. New court rules make program attendance a requirement for people who are requesting or responding to requests for custody, access or private guardianship. This free of charge program is also open to grandparents, other family members and interested people.
- For the Sake of the Children: Legal Considerations – The 30-minute video, Legal Considerations (shown here in eight sections), provides information about legal and financial issues when parents separate or divorce. It's one piece of Manitoba government's For the Sake of the Children program – a six-hour, 2-part seminar to help parents understand their children's needs, and what they can do to help themselves and their children cope and adjust to the changes involved.
- Klinic Crisis Line
- Moving On & Managing Your Money : An Information Guide for Domestic Violence Survivors – When leaving a home where there is domestic violence, people are often faced with money problems. This Guide brings together a variety of information to help identify what steps to take and where to call as survivors get on their feet and manage their money.
- Parenting On Your Own Handbook – Raising a child on your own has unique challenges. The Parenting on Your Own handbook features the many supportive resources available to you all in one place.
- Parenting Pointers for the Holidays After a Separation
- When Parents Separate: How You Can Help Children Cope – Find out what you can do to help your child cope during separation and divorce.